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The Unexpected Truth about my Divorce

Divorce is never easy, and for many of us, it can be a particularly painful experience. When we take our vows with the intention of spending forever together, it can be difficult to accept when things don’t go as planned. It can be even more difficult to come to terms with what life looks like without that person in it. In dealing with my own divorce I found it very difficult to accept that my life was not going to be how I had envisioned it at this age. I felt let down, and that made me angry. Getting over my divorce has been a process. Not getting over my Ex, I was over him. But, getting over the disintegration of my marriage, that was a different story. To those out there who are still struggling to make peace with their divorce, this blog post is for you.

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Grieving Your Loss

When a relationship ends, even if it was the right decision and the best thing for both parties, there is still loss involved. You have spent years of your life with this person as a part of your plans and dreams; now all of that has changed. Taking the time to grieve that loss is an important part of the healing process. This could mean talking through your feelings with friends or family members, writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal, or participating in group therapy designed specifically for those going through divorce. Allowing yourself time to grieve will help you move forward and make peace with what happened.

Finding Inner Strength

Divorce can bring up all sorts of emotions, from anger and sadness to guilt and shame. It’s important to remember that no matter how hard it feels right now, you have the inner strength within you to get through this difficult time. Though it may not seem like it sometimes, you are resilient enough to make it through this period in your life—you just need to believe in yourself! If needed, seek out additional resources such as books or podcasts that specialize in helping people cope with divorce; these tools can provide valuable insight into how others have found their own inner strength during difficult times.

Making New Plans

It might feel strange at first but eventually allowing yourself to create new plans and dreams without your ex-spouse will help ease some of the pain associated with divorce. Many people find that re-engaging in activities they enjoyed before marriage—such as hobbies or sports—is a great way to start making new plans for their life going forward; think about what makes you feel alive and use that momentum for planning ahead! Additionally, taking steps towards self-improvement can be incredibly beneficial; making small changes such as getting enough sleep each night or eating healthy meals regularly can have an enormous impact on how we feel day-to-day!

Divorce is never easy but it doesn't have to define you either. With patience and self-care, anyone going through divorce can find peace within themselves again and begin making plans for their future without guilt or shame. Remember that there are resources available if needed—including books or group therapy—and know that there is strength within you waiting to be discovered once again! I hope anyone out there facing divorce finds solace in knowing they are not alone on their journey towards making peace with what has happened so they can move forward confidently into whatever comes next in life!


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