As women, we often find ourselves drawn to men who are emotionally unavailable. It's like a magnet that we can't resist. We try to prove we're worth their attention, we want to heal them, and we believe we can change them. Unfortunately, this usually ends in frustration, heartbreak, and wasted time. The reality is that an emotionally unavailable man is one of three things: not focused on building a relationship, not healed from his last relationship, or not interested in emotionally investing in you. In this post, we'll touch on each of these reasons briefly.
1) Not focused on building a relationship - When a man is not focused on building a relationship, it means he's not ready for one. He may be at a stage in his life where he's more interested in his career, hobbies, or personal goals. He may have just ended a long-term relationship or be in the middle of a divorce. Whatever the reason, he's not in the headspace to put effort into a relationship. Some women will try to invest time and energy into such a man, hoping he'll see what he's missing. However, the truth is that no matter how amazing you are, you can't force a man to focus on a relationship. It's best to save your efforts for someone who's ready and available for a real connection.
2) Not healed from his last relationship - A man who's not healed from his last relationship is still carrying emotional baggage. He's not over his ex-girlfriend or wife, and he may even still be in contact with her. He could be using you as a rebound, or just as a distraction from his unresolved feelings. Trying to heal a man from his past is a noble concept, but it's not your job. It's crucial to remember that he needs to be emotionally whole before he can be in a healthy relationship with someone new. If you find yourself in this situation, step away and save yourself from unnecessary emotional turmoil.
3) Not interested in emotionally investing in you - This is the hardest pill to swallow. A man who's not interested in emotionally investing in you is not the right man for you. Too often, women think that they can change a man's mind or heart, but it's just not possible. It's important to realize that you deserve someone who's all in, someone who wants to be with you, and a man who's willing to emotionally invest in you. If he's not interested, it's time to walk away.
It's essential to recognize these signs, and not waste your time and energy on someone who's not ready or available. Instead, focus on the men who are ready, healed, and interested in you. They're out there, and you deserve someone who's all in and willing to emotionally invest in you.
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