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Divorce is never easy, and for many of us, it can be a particularly painful experience. When we take our vows with the intention of spending forever together, it can be difficult to accept when things don’t go as planned. It can be even more difficult to come to terms with what life looks like without that person in it. In dealing with my own divorce I found it very difficult to accept that my life was not going to be how I had envisioned it at this age. I felt let down, and that made me angry. Getting over my divorce has been a process. Not getting over my Ex, I was over him. But, getting over the disintegration of my marriage, that was a different story. To those out there who are still struggling to make peace with their divorce, this blog post is for you. Photo by Austin Guevara Grieving Your Loss When a relationship ends, even if it was the right decision and the best thing for both parties, there is still loss involved. You have spent years of your life with this person as a par

Self-love is the act of loving oneself. It involves accepting yourself and having high expectations for your own happiness and well-being. Over the last few years, I have been on a journey of self-love and it has been full of ups and downs. But, it has been worth every minute because I am now in a healthier place mentally, physically, and emotionally. I think it is important that as women, we recognize what love is and what it isn't. Learning how to love yourself is a great place to start that journey, because loving yourself will attract healthier relationships with others. Photo by Loe Moshkovska My Self-Love Journey I started my self-love journey with small steps — setting boundaries for myself, being mindful when making decisions, practicing positive affirmations each day, taking care of my physical body through exercise and healthy eating habits. These are all things that I had to work on within myself before I could start expecting anyone else to treat me differently or bette

The Law of Attraction is a positive mindset philosophy that encourages us to focus on what we want, instead of what we don’t want. The law states that whatever we focus on will come into our lives. So, if you focus on negative thoughts, negative experiences will come into your life. On the other hand, if you focus on positive thoughts and experiences, those things will manifest in your life as well. But what exactly is it and how does it work? Here are some basic fundamentals to answer those questions. Photo by Min An What is The Law Of Attraction? The Law of Attraction is based on the idea that we have control over our own lives and our own destinies. Basically, it states that whatever you think about most often and focus on, will start to manifest in your reality. If you’re constantly thinking negative thoughts and focusing on what you don't want in life, then those negative things will start to happen in your life. However, if instead you focus on what you do want and only think

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Do it with grace?” Many of us have experienced moments where we had to hold our chin up and face a situation that felt uncomfortable or difficult. We should not let those moments tear us down, or make us hard. We should choose to live with grace instead. Living with grace means having the ability to face life’s challenges with poise, elegance, humility, and forgiveness. It is about finding the beauty in life despite the negativity around us. Even when things seem bleak or uncertain, when we live with grace we are able to see the silver lining.  Here are some tips for living with grace and ease despite the challenges you may face in life. Photo by Ogo 1. Find Your Center When facing a challenging situation, take a deep breath and find your center. This will help you remain grounded in the present moment so that you can make decisions from an informed place rather than from a place of reactivity or fear. Take your time to assess the situation and determin

Infidelity is one of the most difficult ordeals a couple can face. If your spouse or significant other has cheated on you, you may be feeling overwhelmed by the decision of whether to stay, or leave. While there is no single answer that applies to everyone, there are some important questions you should consider before deciding what’s best. Photo by Liza Summer How Serious Was His Cheating?  The first question to ask yourself is how serious the infidelity was. Was it a one-time mistake, or was it an ongoing affair? Was it physical or emotional? Answering these questions can help you determine whether this was merely a momentary lapse in judgement or something more serious that could indicate deeper issues in the marriage. If his cheating was a one-time thing, then perhaps it’s something that can be worked through together with counseling and communication. However, if his cheating was part of an ongoing pattern, then this could be an indication of deeper problems for which counseling ma

In life, it can be easy to take the things we have for granted. We often get so busy that we forget to take a moment each day to recognize and appreciate all of the blessings in our lives. Practicing gratitude is a powerful way to bring more joy into your life. Here’s why you should make time every day to count your blessings and live with gratitude. Photo by Kristina Paukshtite The Benefits of Gratitude Gratitude has been proven to help people sleep better, reduce stress levels, boost happiness, and even increase self-esteem. Studies show that expressing gratitude increases positive emotions and strengthens relationships with others. It also creates a sense of purpose and helps us stay grounded and focused on what really matters in life. When we practice gratitude, it can help us see situations from a different perspective and look for silver linings even when times are tough. It helps us focus on the good instead of becoming overwhelmed by the bad. Taking time each day to appreciate

Along with time and money, energy is one of your most valuable resources. And if you're a professional woman, it's a resource that's most likely in short supply. With the myriad number of professional and personal tasks you need to accomplish, while taking care of your family, you have very little - if any - energy left over for you. It's easy to understand your dilemma. Energy is defined as "having the internal or inherent power or capacity to act, operate or produce an effect." Mental, physical and emotional energy is the fuel that drives your creativity, your thinking and your ability to take action. Energy drains limit your capacity to act and create. They also deplete the inspiration and motivation that is such a crucial part of a complete and balanced life. Here are the top 5 sources of energy drain I see most often in my clients' lives, as well as some suggestions for how to eliminate them. Energy Drain #1: Keeping Details In Your Head, Instead Of I