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Dating After 40: Why You Deserve a Man Who's Done the Work

Women in their 40s should have a different outlook on dating than those in their younger years. As we age, our priorities should change. What once seemed like an exciting project or a new endeavor may now feel like a waste of time. We reach a point where we no longer have time for "projects." And that includes men who don't have their shit together. A man must be stable, both financially and emotionally. We've invested time and energy building ourselves up and we deserve a partner who has done the same.  Once you reach a certain age, you can no longer afford to invest your time and energy into someone who isn't on the same page as you. 

You've spent years working on yourself and improving your life. You've invested time and money into your education, career, and personal growth. You've learned the importance of taking care of your physical and mental health. So why should you settle for a man who hasn't done the same?

A man who has done the work is someone who is emotionally mature and knows exactly what he wants in life. He has spent time reflecting on his past experiences and has learned from them. He has faced his demons and has worked through any internal struggles he may have had. He is secure in himself and doesn't need you to "fix" him.

In addition to emotional maturity, a man who has done the work is financially stable and responsible. He has a career and is financially independent. He doesn't expect you to bail him out of financial trouble or support him financially. He has a solid plan for his future and is actively working towards his goals.

A man who has done the work knows how to communicate effectively. He can express his feelings and emotions in a healthy way and is willing to listen to you when you need to talk. He values honesty and transparency in a relationship and is open to compromise.

But finding a man who has done the work isn't just about what he can offer you. It's also about what you can offer him. A man who has done the work deserves a woman who is on the same level as him. He deserves someone who can match his emotional maturity and financial stability. He deserves someone who shares his values and can communicate effectively.

As we age, our standards for relationships should change. We no longer have time for "projects" or immature partners. Both men and women deserve someone who has done the work and is ready for a mature, committed relationship. By valuing ourselves and what we bring to the table, we can attract someone who is on the same level as us and who will be a true partner in all areas of our lives.

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