How to Spot a Real Man

The hunt for the perfect man is never-ending. We want the total package – good looks, humor, wealth, great sex, and intelligence. However, statistics show that many men are not what they seem on the outside. Many of them are just little boys in a grown man's body. Immaturity comes in all shapes and sizes. Trouble happens when we assume that the exterior of a man represents the interior character. So let's talk about how to spot a real man, what qualities make them different from little boys.

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Real men prioritize their mental health and well-being.

Mental Health is often a topic that is rarely discussed in men, and some even consider it taboo. However, it is one of the greatest signs that a man is a real man. Real men prioritize their mental health by attending therapy sessions, taking breaks when overwhelmed and participate in activities that promote relaxation and self-care. They are not afraid to admit when things are becoming too much for them, and they are willing to take the necessary actions to restore their mental stability. 

A Real man takes responsibility for his actions.

Immature men are often prone to making mistakes and are quick to blame others when things go wrong. On the other hand, a real man will take responsibility for his actions, make amends and learn from his mistakes. Whether it’s in his personal or professional life, he does not make excuses for himself when things go south. He readily admits when he's wrong and takes the necessary steps to make it right. 

Real men have a clear vision and purpose for their lives.

A real man takes serious the direction of his life. He has set goals that he’s working towards, and he is not just settling. He’s driven, ambitious and has a clear perspective of what he wants to achieve in his life. He knows that his vision goes beyond what he can do for himself but also includes building something that will impact the people he loves and those around him.

Real men can communicate effectively.

Communication is an essential aspect of any relationship, and a real man knows that. Unlike little boys, real men are open to communicating effectively and transparently with their partners. They listen to understand, not to respond, and engage in conversations that further the development of the relationship. They respect their partner's point of view, communicate their own, and work together to find a middle ground and ultimately, a solution.

Real men value and prioritize their relationships.

A real man knows that the people in his life matter. He prioritizes his relationships and goes to lengths in maintaining quality ones. He demonstrates loyalty, respect, and kindness towards his loved ones, and exemplifies what it means to be a good friend. He invests time, effort and resources into strengthening his relationships and holds these bonds sacred.

Do not be fooled what a man wears, or what he drives. Little boys come dress nice and drive fancy cars too. You need to look beyond physical attributes and pay attention to the character of a man. A real man prioritizes his mental health, takes responsibility for his actions, has a clear vision and purpose for his life, communicates effectively and values his relationships. By knowing these qualities, you can know what to look for in identifying a real man and not waste time with someone who will leave you broke, heartbroken and unfulfilled. Take the time to establish if he is a genuine fit to prevent heartache and disillusionment over time.

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