Ladies, it's time to stop dating needy men. You know the ones I'm talking about, the guys who seem to only take from the relationship and never give back. The ones who drain your energy, demand your attention and always need you to do something for them. If you're tired of being the Goodwill of your relationships and donating your vagina to men who don't deserve it, then this post is for you.
First, let me clarify what I mean by “needy men.” These are men who are incapable of doing anything for themselves and believe that the world owes them something. They are the ones who always need you to babysit them emotionally or financially. When you’re dating a needy man, you are the one doing all the heavy lifting in the relationship. You're paying for the majority of expenses, driving them around, and picking up their messes.
Let me emphasize the importance of reciprocity in relationships. Relationships should be about give and take. When you're doing everything for someone, and they're not doing anything for you, it's time to call it quits. You shouldn't have to give up your time, energy, and resources to someone who can't/won't lift a finger to enhance your life. Or, for someone who is not doing enough. In a healthy relationship, both partners should be contributing equally.
When you’re in a healthy relationship, both partners should be upgrading each other’s lives. Upgrades could be anything that adds value to your life, including emotional support, physical intimacy, intellectual stimulation, and financial stability. When you’re dating a needy man, upgrades go out the window. All your time is spent trying to make him feel better, and you never get anything in return. Your life stays the same, or even worse, it gets worse.
If you're over the age of 40, you need to be extra vigilant about the men you're dating. You don't have time to waste on men who can’t contribute to your life. It's not about being picky. It's about being realistic and knowing what you want and what you deserve. As you get older, your priorities shift, and so should your dating preferences. You should be looking for a partner who can enhance your life, not drag it down.
It's time to stop dating needy men. You're not the Goodwill, and you don't owe anyone your time, energy, and resources. In healthy relationships, both partners should be contributing equally and upgrading each other's lives. Remember that your time is precious, and you don't have to settle for less just because you're single. Be patient, and the right partner will come along who can give as much as you do. Let's stop donating our value to the less fortunate and focus on finding a partner who can add value to our lives.
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