Proof that You Were NOT the Problem

Have you ever gone through a breakup where your former partner made you feel like you were the problem? You analyzed every interaction, replayed every conversation in your head, wondering where you went wrong. Yet you just can't figure it out. Well what if I told you that the proof that you were NOT the problem is in him STILL contacting you? If he's doing any of these things ladies, you were not the problem.

1. He's still trying for little "friendly" contact to keep the door open.

If your ex-partner broke up with you and stills try for little friendly contact, like texting you about random things or liking your social media posts then he's still into you. He's trying to keep the door open and hoping that you will reciprocate his feelings. This may seem innocent, or cordial but he actually needs to respect your boundaries and let you go.

2. He's still watching your moves through social media.

Social media is a great tool to know what's happening in someone's life. But, if your ex-partner is continuously watching your stories and posts, they're not over you. They're still interested in your life and wants to be a part of it. However, this behavior is not healthy, and he should not be stalking your social media.

3. He's trying to convince others that you were the problem.

If your ex-partner is trying to convince others that you were the problem, even though they broke up with you, he still wants you. He's trying to rationalize his decision and save face. But he needs to own up to his actions and not try to blame you for his mistakes.

You were not the problem.

Ladies, stop building these men up. If your ex-partner is still trying for little "friendly" contact to keep the door open, watching your moves, and trying to convince others that you were the problem, then you weren't. And he's not over you.

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